From Struggle to Strength: Why I Became a Dating Coach

I used to think love just wasn’t meant for someone like me.

In my early teens, I said yes to anyone who asked — because I didn’t believe I deserved to be truly seen or valued. I even dated one of my best friends, who later admitted he only did it to get closer to another girl.

In my late teens, I stayed in a relationship where I was cheated on for four years, mentally and physically abused — and I didn’t leave. I thought that was just how relationships worked. That if I could love him better, he’d change.

In my early twenties, I met someone who seemed “safe,” but he kept me hidden from his world and betrayed my trust repeatedly. After that, I spiraled — lost in confusion about what real connection even looked like.

Then everything shifted when I had my son. I stopped dating, focused on myself — went to school, got my degree, built confidence, and moved to New York.

That’s where I met the man I would marry — my best friend, the love of my life. But he didn’t rescue me.

I chose to change my story.

What I didn’t realize then was that the painful relationship patterns I kept repeating were deeply wired — shaped by what I saw growing up. My dad left when I was six, and I believed it was my fault. I thought if I could get a man to stay, I’d finally be enough.

But I never had a healthy example of love. My parents’ version was chaos — screaming, silent treatments, walking on eggshells. I learned to swallow my truth just to keep the peace.

I learned that love meant sacrifice and pain — that men could act however they wanted, and I was expected to just take it.

But now I know — that’s not love.

This is why I coach.

Because you don’t have to keep repeating the same dating mistakes.

Because real, healthy connection is possible.

Because you deserve to feel confident, valued, and truly loved.

It starts with deciding that you do.

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